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Healing With Hurt Feelings

  • Posted on July 31, 2012 at 3:50 am

More than once in our lives we are going to get our feeling hurt.  Sometimes it’s a small, but happens often.  Sometimes we get our feelings hurt so bad we get physically ill.  Some people will go as far as sacrificing time with a loved one because they had their feelings hurt by a third person who’s company can’t be avoided.  Living happy is already a challenge, so when we get our feelings hurt you just want to avoid those people.  Instead of feeling the hurt, feel the intensity of its impact on you. You choose the feeling.  Healing with hurt feelings is possible.  Change your hurt around.

Healing with hurt feelings

Wouldn’t life be so much easier without hurt feelings? Well, maybe. But I believe that hurt feelings can also provide a powerful opportunity for self-awareness and healing. If outer reality is a reflection of inner reality, then when hurt feelings show up, we can take the opportunity to ask ourselves what has been suppressed and unexpressed. If in my outer world there is something that produces hurt and pain, then there must be something inside me that is still unresolved. The question then becomes what to do with hurt feelings when they show up, and what can we learn from them. The theme of this blog series and of my new book is how to use everything that life puts on our path as a way to unbind our hearts. Hurt feelings can then serve as a tunnel, through which we can come to the other side to the freedom of our heart.

Here are the some of the ground rules to deal with hurt feelings that can help:

1. There is nothing wrong with you because you have hurt feelings. We all get them. They are a part of life.

2. There is nothing wrong with your hurt feelings. They have a right and a reason to be there.

3. They need to be expressed. It’s not the hurt feelings themselves that cause long-term pain and issues. Keeping them bottled up is what causes problems, in ourselves and in our relationships.

4. They need to be accepted. Judging ourselves for having hurt feelings only makes things worse. By coming into acceptance, we can more clearly see them for what they are and learn from them.

5. We have a choice to let them go. We don’t have to let them run our lives. We can accept them, learn from them and then move on.

The first step to coming into acceptance of our hurt feelings is to take ownership of them and not blame someone else. No one else is responsible for our feelings. We are responsible for our own. To say that someone else “hurt my feelings” is to give our power away. It is saying to yourself that another person has the power to make us feel a certain way. Not true at all. It is only so because you say so. It’s more accurate to say, “In this particular situation, I allowed my feelings to get hurt,” and to be in the driver’s seat.

But I believe that hurt feelings can also provide a powerful opportunity for self-awareness and healing. If outer reality is a reflection of inner reality, then when hurt feelings show up, we can take the opportunity to ask ourselves what has been

Just remember you are more powerful then your feelings.  Hurt feelings can be there, you can feel them in your stomach, but you don’t have to hate.  Start healing with hurt feelings by listening to what they are saying.  They exist and they hurt. Accept the hurt, forgive the hurt then let the hurt go.

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Easy Relaxation Techniques For Inner Peace

  • Posted on July 6, 2012 at 3:25 am

Relaxing your body for meditation can sometimes be difficult.  There are many relaxation techniques for inner peace.  Try the method in this article.  Remember that it may take a few times before you get the results you like.

Easy relaxation techniques for inner peace

Today we are going to look at one of our relaxation techniques for inner peace which relaxes your body and mind. Before we begin with the technique I would like to share some very interesting insights on the connection between our bodies and our minds. We should understand that they are not separate. Science has known for quite a while that they are connected internally. If you can relax your body then your mind has a way of naturally following and if you can relax your mind then your body has a way to follow naturally.

Another very interesting observation which has been scientifically researched is how our bodies react to our inner voice. You will be surprised to see that if you tell your body to relax in a soft voice, it will listen to you. This has been know by zen masters and meditators for centuries but only recently have researchers shared these insights scientifically.

This brings me to one of our techniques for inner peace which you can try. It is focussed on using our inner voice to relax completely and find inner peace. If you would prefer another relaxation technique, you can access a variety of other techniques right now by downloading our free relaxation and meditation guide. This particular relaxation technique will relax you completely by first relaxing your body and then relaxing your mind, leaving you totally relaxed.

Let’s begin. Here’s one of our relaxation techniques for inner peace which you can try.

Body & Mind Relaxation Technique

This relaxation technique requires you to simply move your attention from feet to head relieving any stress or tension by softly telling each part of your body to relax.

1. Find somewhere to lay down comfortably and close your eyes.

2. Make sure you body is completely relaxed and still.

3. Now begin moving your attention into your toes and feet to see if there is any tension in them. If there is then softly tell your toes and feet to relax.

3. Move your attention up a little more to your ankles and calves. Once again be receptive and feel if there is any tension in them. Soflty say relax.

4. Now allow your attention to move up into your knees, hips, groin and quads. Feel every part of them and release any tenson by softly saying relax.

5. Your attention now moves up into your back, belly and chest. Keep your awareness here for a moment and softly relax any tension.

6. Now move to your shoulders, arms, hands and neck. Relax them.

7. Now your attention moves to your head. Notice any thoughts or inner turmoil and very slowly and softly say relax.

8. Remain in this complete relaxed state for as long as you like. Enjoy it.

As you move out of the technique feel the inner peace this has created and bring that richness into everything you do.

Insights, tips & relaxation techniques for inner peace as well as a free relaxation guide full of relaxation techniques for inner peace.

Inner peace can be achieved.  Be patient, you may find several relaxation techniques for inner peace that are right for you.  Take one day at a time and remember, stop thinking so much.

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Find Inner Peace- It Only Comes from YOU

  • Posted on July 2, 2012 at 9:34 am

There are many who are looking to find inner peace.  There are many books on this subject.  They all have great information, the trick is finding one you can relate to.  Here is an author who has some wonderful advice on achieving inner peace.  Timing is everything, maybe now is your time to read what is being said and learn.

Acceptance to find inner peace.

Finding inner peace is something we all want in life, but many finds it challenging to really experience inner peace. I explained in my book “How to overcome worry and have peace of mind” that we tend to focus more on what is missing in our lives and often we don’t accept the things that we have no control of. As long as we don’t accept what can’t be changed, we will never be able to truly find peace of mind in life.

What does acceptance mean? By acceptance, I mean you have to accept what can’t be changed like the loss of someone, your height, your color, and people’s opinions of you among other things. As long as you keep worrying and fretting over things that can’t be changed, you won’t be able to enjoy inner peace.

Unfortunately many people lack inner peace and serenity as they keep concentrating on things and issues that they have no control over. Let me ask you a question; is there any benefit in dwelling over something that will not be changed? How often have you heard someone say something like:

If only she/he would change

If only I’m tall

If only people would like me more

If only she loves me

If only it is always sunny

A few years ago, I used to worry constantly in the winter about driving in the snow. Driving in this weather used to cause me excessive anxiety and stress. However, when I realized that my worrying will not change anything, I started to change my perception of the event, so I can start experiencing peace of mind in my life. I didn’t start to

experience inner peace until I decided to change my thoughts and perception about the snow and accept what I can’t change.

Acceptance is very crucial for leading a happy and serene life. Once you start improving what needs to be improved and changing what needs to be changed in your life, your focus will be primarily on what you desire. Your mind will be free from worry and you will experience and find inner peace.

Have you ever wondered why some people are happy and have peace of mind while others keep worrying? Why do some people’s life filled with worry while others filled with happiness and peace of mind? My e-book How to overcome worry answers those questions and teaches you the scientific ways to control and overcome worry and have peace of mind.

Finding inner peace is something we all want in life, but many finds it challenging to really experience inner peace. I explained in my book “How to overcome

You deserve to find inner peace, we all do.  The world we live in can make it hard to achieve.  Try taking one day at a time or one moment at a time.  What’s past is past, what’s coming hasn’t happened yet.  What matters is here and now.

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What is the Best way to find INNER PEACE

  • Posted on June 13, 2012 at 5:59 am

Inner peace, or peace of mind, refers to a state of being mentally and spiritually.  Removing issues that interfere with your inner peace  can be done through meditation.  The best way to find inner peace will depend on what type of meditation works best for you.  As long as you meditate a little every day, your mind will become quiet and inner peace can be achieved.

What is the best way to find inner peace..

What does inner peace mean to you? Many will define it as living in luxury or the feeling after accomplishing a huge project or some may describe it as the feeling you get after eating a delicious slice of cheesecake. However, inner peace is much more serious than food or a project it is something we must determine before we can truly live a happy, healthy and most importantly a content life.

Some are forever searching for this inner peace while comparing themselves with others, competing with siblings, or making a bucket list that they may never complete. Most people live very unhappy lives because they have not found this inner peace. Some wish their lives would be different, lived in a bigger home, drove a fancier car, had the perfect family or the perfect job. None of those things will bring inner peace.

Finding our inner peace begins by accepting who you are. Wow! That is huge and perhaps a bit difficult to process. However, it is one of the ways to find the inner peace that truly lives within each and every one of us. You may find yourself upset over what may have occurred years ago and some find it difficult to move on from certain instances in their lives. It is essential to let go of the past and those that may have been a part of it that made a negative impact on your life.

Instead of holding on, learn from the lesson that was attached to the particular situation because if you think hard enough you will realize there was a lesson. Learn from the lesson and move on with your life. The saying – ‘life is too short’ may be associated with the phenomenon of living your dreams. Too often the dreams you have are unachievable and should be left as dreams. There’s nothing wrong with dreaming unless you are working so hard to achieve the dream that it ends up ruining your life in the process. Stop thinking what would have happened if only you had this or that. Instead of living in the life of ‘if only’s‘ start living your life for today.

Finding your inner peace does not mean the negation of worry. The inner peace that you search for is one that will come when you face the greater story. This is not to be confused with the inane things in life because as mentioned life is too short and merely a drop in a bucket compared to your life in eternity. If you think of what your life will be for the rest of eternity, the things of this world will soon grow dim because you will be mindful of the bigger story. The greatest peace of all will come when you make peace with Him.

The greatest offense to Him comes when you think you can determine what happens in your life. The saying that everything in our lives happens for a reason is very true. For a very long time I wrestled with thoughts of why my life was the way it was. It was when I gave up living in the past and started applying the lessons learned from the pain and anguish that the inner peace began to appear.

The inner peace you long for and search for is within you and it begins with letting go and living life today. Stop worrying about the past, stop comparing yourself with others; live the life you have today to the fullest and simply be happy and content. It is possible when you look at the bigger picture and understand our days on this earth are numbered, why live with fear, anger or sadness? Let it all go and you will find the inner peace you long for.

What does inner peace mean to you? Many will define it as living in luxury or the feeling after accomplishing a huge project or some may describe it as the

It’s not easy, in fact the best way to find inner peace can be hard.  Don’t give up.  Life has challenges and sometimes when you achieve inner peace it only lasts a short time.  That’s ok.  Once you experience the feeling one time, even if it’s only for a short time, like a breeze, it’s here than gone.  You will be able to get there again by remembering that feeling.  By remembering that feeling while you meditate, The Law of Attraction will bring it back to you.

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Let aging become your spiritual journey.

  • Posted on May 22, 2012 at 8:37 am

You’re getting older and you hate it.  You keep asking yourself how, what, why, and you can’t do anything to stop it.  It  is happening to all of us, we age everyday.  It’s our journey though life.  Try changing how you look at aging, see it as your spiritual path.  Let aging become your spiritual journey.

Let aging become your spiritual journey.

I often teach that Buddhism is about how to be truly happy, so I have been studying the new research field of “happiness studies,” which focuses on the objective measures and causes of happiness. Researchers have found three factors that reliably increase happiness as we grow older — gratitude, generosity and reframing (seeing your situation from a more positive perspective). Not surprisingly, the Buddhist tradition offers these same three factors as spiritual practices for cultivating happiness. I would add two more — curiosity and flexibility.

Gratitude. When I ask audiences what they like about being older, people often answer “Gratitude,” and then say what they are grateful for: grandchildren, good health, free time, wearing what they want, the chance to travel, giving back to the community. One person included the ham sandwich she had just had for lunch. I have an exercise I call the “thank you” prayer. People repeat the words “thank you” silently to themselves and watch what comes up. It’s amazing how many and how readily images of gratitude come to mind.

Generosity. One happiness study reported that if giving weren’t free, drug companies could market a great new drug called “give back” instead of Prozac. It’s scientifically proven: giving back and helping others makes us feel happier and more content. Giving is a universal spiritual value taught by every religion, and the desire to give back naturally increases as we age. It is part of our emerging role as community elders — something we can do into our sixties, seventies, eighties and beyond. Giving is truly a spiritual practice, and it naturally lifts our spirits. My new book Aging As A Spiritual Practice: a Contemplative Guide to Growing Older and Wiser offers many tangible methods to cultivate a generous spirit. Among these is a contemplative exercise from the Tibetan Buddhist tradition that allows us inwardly picture recipients of our generosity and direct compassionate feeling toward them.

Reframing. Aging includes its share of reverses, losses and sorrows. What makes the difference is our attitude about them. If a bad knee means we can’t jog anymore, we needn’t despair; we can take up swimming. If we lost money in the recession, we can cherish what we still have. If we become ill, we rejoice when we recover. I have developed a meditation called “Vertical Time” that focuses on the positive aspects of the present, rather than regrets of the past and worries about the future. We tend to think of time as linear and horizontal, but it is also vertical — one breath at a time. Vertical Time is really breath-based reframing.

Curiosity. Curiosity is an important attitude to cultivate as we age. There’s a tendency to hunker down in our old familiar routines. It’s good to resist that temptation. Physical exercise grows new muscle, mental activity grows new brain cells, emotional engagement lifts the spirit. Curiosity keeps us young; we need to cherish it. If you see an interesting ad for a wildlife class, consider taking it. If you go into a bookstore, try browsing in sections you don’t usually visit. If you haven’t seen a friend in too many years, reach out. Children are naturally curious, and we can be too.

Flexibility. Things change as we age, and some of those changes are irrevocable. Our youthful stamina is gone forever; a dying friend will never return. In the face of these changes, it’s important that we not become rigid and stuck in our ways. With every reversal comes new opportunity. No matter what the issue, no matter how big the problem, there is always something constructive that you can do. Never give up, never let aging get the better of you. This is how the “extraordinary elderly” do it — the ones who have beaten the odds to enjoy their old age to the very end.

The Spiritual Life. A spiritual perspective on aging is not just for personal transformation; it is a medicine for longevity and health. Research shows that people with an active involvement in church or spiritual community live on average seven years longer than those who don’t.

These five practices for aging well really work; science says so, common sense says so, and every religion says so. Aging As A Spiritual Practice builds on these truths to treat the process of aging as an opportunity for inner transformation. We deserve to enjoy our aging; it is our reward in the continuing adventure of living a whole and fulsome life.

Not surprisingly, the Buddhist tradition offers these same three factors as spiritual practices for cultivating happiness. I would add two more — curiosity and flexibility. Gratitude. When I ask audiences what they like about being older, people often

We can’t stop it but we can change how we feel about aging.   Let aging become your spiritual journey.  Follow your path moving forward one day at a time.

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Too much control can cause you to lose your peace of mind

  • Posted on May 7, 2012 at 4:47 am

Trying to do everything yourself can be exhausting.  It’s alright to let someone else take responsibility.  When it comes to your children, let them learn by making mistakes.  As adults they need to know how to handle things.  If they don’t learn they will always turn to you.  Too much control can cause you to lose your peace of mind.  By letting go of the control, you will be able to relax and let others do for themselves.

 Too much control can cause you to lose your peace of mind.

This article is not just about the controlling mother who does not allow her child to open his eyes, experience the world, and learn to live on his own. It is however metaphor for the unhealthy, and sometimes sad, end product produced by people who try to control too much in their universe. This is an all too common real life situation of someone trying to control every aspect of his or her life. They want to fly the plane, manage projects at work, make the coffee, give the kids a bath, organize the social calendar, and they insist on always being in the driver’s seat… literally and figuratively. They have a need to micromanage, master, supervise, check, direct, dominate, execute, and control everything around them.The importance of balance

Being in control of one’s life is a good thing and there are positives of being able to manage the various aspects of life. Control can give one a sense of calm and pride, make one feel productive and independent, and can be reassuring and empowering. However, too much of a “good thing” creates imbalance. Unfortunately, when this happens, the controller and those that are being controlled suffer. The consequences can be short or long term and can range from guilt and stress to physical illness and depression.

Then what? The correct answer would be to ask for or see help whether from a loved one or a professional. However, since these individuals are so used to handling everything on their own, they often don’t ask for help and instead may try to deal with the situation on their own often times using drugs and alcohol. Others become so anxious they isolate themselves or end up in the hospital. Sadly, some individuals have become so overwhelmed, they feel they have no other option but to end their lives, which is why it’s important to intervene when you see a loved one struggling.

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Always remembertoo much control can cause you to lose your peace of mind.  Let others take responsibility, let your children do for themselves.  Live your life, let others live theirs  

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How forgiveness brings Healing

  • Posted on May 1, 2012 at 5:46 pm

What we feel and what we think is directly related to how we live.  When we have negative feelings we attract negative results.  The Law of Attraction is very strong and is one of the most important laws in the universe.  Holding resentment or not forgiving someone or yourself will attract similar vibrations that can cause failed health.  Life is too short and we all deserve to be healthy and happy.  Forgiveness brings healing.  Learn to forgive and let go of those feelings, you are too important  and you deserve a better life.   

How forgiveness brings healing.

I was recently reminded that forgiveness is key to being healthy and emotionally free. Things happen all the time that beckon the need to forgive, and once you realize that it’s cleansing for your mind, body and soul, it becomes a habit. The holiday season is a great time to let those old grievances go. It could be the greatest gift you’ll give.

Here’s an excerpt from my book Embrace, Release, Heal that speaks to the importance of forgiveness:

To heal, truly and deeply, we are charged with somehow, in some way, bypassing the urge to retaliate, to cast blame, or to further ignite the justifications for remaining a victim. We must find the still and certain center of our hearts, the place that wants to release the grievances and find peace. It’s the deepest part of our heart that knows, without doubt, that we are divine and there is no need to fight or blame. When we feel a tug to be still rather than to fight or flee, then we’re closer to that center, a territory so subtle and sublime that it can easily be overlooked.

Giving up the battle is a hard concept in a culture that thrives on drama and adversity. Before I grasped this concept, I judged a friend whom I saw backing off from an argument with a coworker, a situation where my friend was clearly in the right and the coworker clearly in the wrong. I inquired why she was submitting, and she said, “I asked myself if I’d rather be right or at peace. I’d rather be at peace, so I’m letting it go.” The ferocity in her eyes showed that this wasn’t the easiest choice, but it was the best one. Plus, she was telling me in no uncertain terms that this was none of my business.

Each of us is responsible for finding the sweet spot where forgiveness dwells. Each of us is in charge of how deeply we let our upsets, anger, resentments, and sorrows run. We have the choice always to let those heavy emotions go. Forgiveness is the way.

It is essential to enact forgiveness with every grudge or judgment that surfaces, because in order to truly heal, we must admit once and for all that we are not victims. Rather, at our core, we are powerful, pure, loving, blissful, peaceful beings. Playing the victim keeps us bound to the laws of the ego. When we forgive, we sanction who we really are. We no longer need or want to be the victim, because forgiveness takes us beyond the rigid dictates of right and wrong. It delivers us to compassion and the acceptance that we occupy a complex world in which every point of view can be understood.

How do we do it? After all, we live in a relentless atmosphere of anger, fear, blame, revenge, outrage, and simplistic black-or-white, wrong-or-right dogmas. Radio and television talk-show hosts scream at us to be mad as hell and blame the ”other” for the state of our ailing world. Forgiveness isn’t a topic of discussion unless it’s couched in sarcasm or cynicism. We cannot watch the news or look to media icons to learn the ways of forgiveness.

Do we dare look to preachers, priests, rabbis, and ministers to learn how to forgive? Only if we’re lucky enough to find a church, a synagogue, or a mosque that’s free of harsh opinions about those who practice life or faith in ways different from our own. Remarkably, judgment seems to be the backbone of many religions today, since political viewpoints have penetrated the pulpit and embroider scripture with partisan design.

There’s nothing you and I can do about that. The machine is too big. We can, however, congregate at the cornerstones of our consciousness and weed out the judgments we possess and protect. Many of those judgments will feel deeply entrenched, leftover from childhood. Some will feel ancient, having followed us into this life from another. Others will be rooted in the current conclusions we have made. How or why our judgments and grievances exist doesn’t ultimately matter. What does matter is letting them go.

Deciding to forgive is the first step. Whether we harbor a lifetime of anger or have just gotten caught up in a specific period of time or a particular incident, we must consciously and deliberately choose forgiveness.

Freeing ourselves of poisonous emotions isn’t just about forgiving the “other.” Very often — indeed, more often than not, it’s about forgiving ourselves.

Forgiving ourselves can be a difficult concept to grasp. We aren’t taught that the worst abuse and neglect often comes from within, yet upon paying closer attention, it doesn’t take us long to become aware of some intensely negative self-talk. Eventually, it becomes necessary to forgive ourselves for self-destructive behaviors, such as dishonoring ourselves by not speaking up or allowing our voices to be heard, by losing someone or something we loved because of neglect or lack of consideration, or by neglecting our bodies or life’s purpose by giving into harmful addictions. We’re masters at putting ourselves down.

Then there are all the ways in which we breed a negative environment by putting others down. This could include cutting comments we make about or to someone else, simple but wicked gossip, or our unspoken but toxic judgments–from criticizing the texture of someone’s hair to dismissing them due to their gender. We’re also masters at putting others down.

Treating others or ourselves badly, regardless of how slightly or severely, insults the truth that we, and everyone else, are absolutely worthy of being treated with respect, kindness, and love. We have an inborn knowledge that we should honor all others and ourselves. When we do not, the ego goes wild and pummels us with guilt and blame for being a bad and worthless person, which only perpetuates the cycle of wanting to blame others so that we can feel better about ourselves.

We’re all members of the gang that lives within. The warfare continues until some part of us steps up and is willing to forgive. Our well-being depends on it.

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It’s not always easy to let things go. With meditation an prayer it can be done.  Remember, forgiveness brings healing, your only hurting yourself.  Think happy to attract healthy.

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Learn How to Create Inner Peace

  • Posted on March 27, 2012 at 5:52 am

To create inner peace, you have to have the mental mastery to shut out the thoughts that prevent you from being at peace. This is not as difficult as you might imagine.  Once you learn how to create inner peace, you can go through every day feeling good about life.


Learn how to create inner peace

Step one is to listen to your mental chatter. Meditation is the perfect time for this. Slip on the headphones, chill out to an Omharmonics track, and let your mind wander. It takes a bit of practice to listen to your thoughts without getting caught up in them but you can do it. This is the time to figure out what’s really preventing you from being at peace.

After a while you’ll notice that you keep looping back to the same old four to seven topics. These are the things that stress you out and prevent you from feeling at peace.

If there’s anything you can do about any of those topics, then do it as soon as possible. A lot of the time, stuff you procrastinate on weighs heavy on the mind and keeps you stressed and tense.Take care of all unfinished business. Get it out of your hair, over with and out of your mind. You’ll feel an amazing release of stagnant energy when you do this.

Now you’ve narrowed the stressful topics by taking care of the things that you have control over. This means that you have less mental work to do to achieve inner peace!

Once you’ve taken care of the things you can control, revisit the mind chatter. Again, meditation is the time and Omharmonics will get you into that deeply peaceful meditation where you can be an impartial observer of your thoughts. Now you will identify the one or two that are most persistent. The squeaky wheels of thoughts that demand your energy. The big kahunas of your stress.

Chances are, they have to do with the Big Three of stressors: finances, relationships and health. Right? Job stresses usually encompass all three: you may hate your job (maybe your boss), but you can’t quit because you have bills to pay and there aren’t any good jobs out there… and the stress of this negatively impacts your health. If you know what your biggest stressor is, that’s the one to focus your mental discipline on first. But if you have two or three and one of them is a job-related thought loop, work on that one first.

Step two is developing mental mastery. What you want to do is replace all negative thoughts with positive thoughts. What this boils down to is you have to learn to quit worrying so much. Take action on the things you can control, and if there are things you can’t control, replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts. This will take time and persistence but if you want inner peace, it’s worth doing.

Every time a negative thought pops up related to your big stressors, take an attitude with it. Say, “next!” and push it out of your mind. Then, as your mind is scrambling to regain its footing, you can insert a thought about the scenario you want to think about.

For example, let’s say you’re struggling to pay the mortgage and the lender has started foreclosure proceedings. This is a major, major stressor that can absolutely destroy your health so you have to get control of your mind. Whenever the “f-word” – “foreclosure” comes up, immediately and forcefully shove it out of the way and replace it with something positive and proactive like “loan modification” or just “modification.” Over and over.

It’s essential to attach an emotion to the word or phrase you are installing as your new default thought. Paint a powerful visual complete with happy emotions of what you want the end result to be – in this case, a loan modification so you can stay in your home. You already have powerful emotions associated with your worries – so create even more powerful emotions about what you want.

Step three is change your perspective. Try to see things from a different point of view. Be okay with alternatives. So, you might lose the house. Is that the end of the world? No. It’s a speed bump in your life, that’s all. See what sorts of alternative scenarios you can imagine. Maybe you really don’t want to be burdened down with a mortgage. Maybe the bank will agree to a loan modification. Imagine all the scenarios you can, and then pick the one that resonates with you.

Whatever scenario you prefer, focus your energy on it and watch what happens. You’ll be amazed!

Inner peace is a state of being that seems elusive in today’s overstimulated world. But develop mental mastery and you can enjoy inner peace in any situation.

When you learn how to create inner peace you can control your mind, you can choose, at any time, in any situation, to feel at peace.

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What Is Meditation And Mindfulness

  • Posted on March 22, 2012 at 5:21 am

Mindfulness meditation has become perhaps the most popular new psychotherapy technique of the past decade.  So what is meditation and mindfulness?  Be mindful, don’t concentrate!   

What is meditation and mindfulness 

Meditation doesn’t make one unusual, better than anyone else or more spiritual than they were before. The more one practices meditation, the more mindful they usually become. A person doesn’t need to be anything more than what they already are. We can simplify things by sitting, follow our breath and watch our thoughts.

The mind needs to be calmed so we don’t get fidgety. It is amazing how much insight one can get when they are able to sit still for a spell. Mindfulness is important here as it calls for paying full attention to what one is doing at that particular moment. While we can learn from the past and plan for the future, it is only the present that can be fully experienced.

There are many forms of meditation, no one way is better than the other. So one can search for the one that best suits their needs. I find meditation useful in two ways, one for going within, the other for becoming aware of my surroundings. One just needs a quiet place to be in and unwind. Letting go of ones concerns is a must then let every part of your body relax.

One doesn’t need to meditate for long periods of time to reap any benefits. One can practice meditation for ten to thirty minutes at a time and still make good use of it. A person needs to be calm and wide awake and avoid positions that has a person run the risk of falling asleep. One shouldn’t push themselves to any degree but focus on the breath to relax and stay in the moment.

Mindfulness is an excellent way of coping with the days busyness. I can’t see how multi-tasking all day long helps a person. There has been times in my life where I’ve had my fingers in too many pies at one time. So I took to heart what I heard on The Red Green Show one time, that being do less but do what I do with more gusto.

Mindfulness is being awake to what is happening to your surroundings around you and inside you. There is no reason to “convert” anyone as a person from any faith can use the techniques involved.

In January 2011 I wrote an article titled “Using Meditation As A Constructive Tool.” I wanted to add to that piece based on my experiences since then. Meditation takes a lot of patience to do as everyone who tries it has any number of distractions to

What is Meditation and Mindfulness?  Easy ways to relax, de-stress and feel better.  Meditation is about developing a state of awareness so that you can stay in the moment.  This is important for your health and well being.



Make Inner Peace With Yourself

  • Posted on March 19, 2012 at 5:07 am

You can never obtain peace in the outer world until you make inner peace with yourself.  The secret is being happy and content.   That is how you’ll find your inner peace.

Make inner peace with yourself

Inner peace means gaining closure and letting go of all your fears, your emotional baggage, doubts, worries, anxieties, limitations, and barriers. Inner peace means disempowering any negative attitudes and beliefs and replacing them with positive empowering qualities. With inner peace, navigating through the world becomes much easier.

Finding inner peace is like pure joy; the essence of it is bliss. Our thoughts make us, and if we can think wisely and positively, we can walk on the road to bliss. Inner peace doesn’t mean staying lonely, it means being in harmony with your loneliness. If you can make loneliness your friend, then you have found the solution to the biggest problem faced in the world. The world today is in constant motion, and we have to pace up if we want to survive, but while learning to survive, we forget how to live. Inner peace is the key that unlocks that door.

It teaches you how to live while constantly pacing up with the world. If left alone in a dark room, all of us would start crying and would feel claustrophobic, not because of the fear of enclosed spaces, but because alone in that dark room we are facing our worst demons. We are looking inside ourselves, at how unhappy we are, how sad and forlorn we feel inside, how there is an emptiness inside all of us, a hole we haven’t been able to fill, so we hid those demons away with our concealed emotions and worries. But they fight back and come forward in the form of anxiety, crying, bad relationships, and mood swings, making us realise that what we are missing is inner peace.

Money can’t buy you happiness, it can’t buy you love, it can’t even buy you sleep, but inner peace can bring all these things into your life.

Because we are unhappy from the inside, we are not in harmony with ourselves; our lives are spinning out of our control. Even staying in your own house, or living with your partner or family, do you feel like this is not home, like something is missing? Like you don’t know where you belong? That is the feeling of unrest. We have to understand that our inner self is made up of five aggregates: Form, Feelings, Perceptions, Mental formation, Consciousness. To find our true home we must to look deeply into these aggregates.

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make inner peace with ourselves.” His Holiness the Dalai Lama knew that the world needed to find the secret to inner peace, that’s why he said the above. His statement has in it, in fact, (blog)

You don’t have to go to China, or Japan, or India to find your peace.  Your true peace is right in the here and now, within you.  You only need to look inside and make inner peace with yourself. You need to stop running away from yourself searching for something outside, you have to find our inner world, our inner peace.

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